Men are not necessarily more at risk of the evil eye
1-4-2015 | IslamWeb
Question:
Sallam alakium dear shiekh Are Men in the family and those who are working outside home more prone in getting evil eye more then women and children based on the fact that the men are outside the home more often due to their busy schedules your help your input on this issue is highly appreciated jazakallahu khyranI’m basing my conclusion that men working outside are more prone to evil eye based on on the following hadeeth : Ahmad, Malik, al-Nasai and Ibn Hibban narrated from Sahl ibn Haneef that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came out and traveled with him towards Makkah, until they were in the mountain pass of al-Kharar in al-Jahfah. There Sahl ibn Haneef did ghusl (bathed), and he was a handsome white-skinned man with beautiful skin. ‘Amir ibn Rabee’ah, one of Banu ‘Adiyy ibn K’ab looked at him whilst he was doing ghusl and said: “I have never seen such beautiful skin as this, not even the skin of a virgin,” and Sahl fell to the ground. They went to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, can you do anything for Sahl, because by Allah he cannot raise his head.” He said, “Do you accuse anyone with regard to him?” They said, “‘Amir ibn Rabee’ah looked at him.” So the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) called ‘Amir and rebuked him strongly. He said, “Why would one of you kill his brother? If you see something that you like, then pray for blessing for him.” Then he said to him, “Wash yourself for him.” So he washed his face, hands, forearms, knees and the sides of his feet, and inside his izaar (lower garment) in the vessel. Then that water was poured over him, and a man poured it over his head and back from behind. He did that to him, then Sahl got up and joined the people and there was nothing wrong with him. Classed as saheeh (authentic) by al-Albani in al-Mishkat
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
This Hadeeth does not prove what you mentioned about men being more subject to the evil eye than women and children. All this Hadeeth proves is that the evil eye is real and that it has an effect by the Will of Allaah.
Men may be more subject to the evil eye because they are outside more often and they mix with people, but children may be more at risk of the evil eye because of their beauty, or because of some of their behavior that attracts attention. Also, the evil eye may be common in women because of the jealousy and envy that commonly transpires among them, or because many of them are used to revealing the beauty that Allaah blessed them with, and this is a cause of jealousy.
Mu‘aath ibn Jabal related that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Have recourse to secrecy in fulfilling your needs, for every blessed person is envied.” [At-Tabaraani and Al-Bayhaqi]
Allaah Knows best.