Her husband teaches a girl Islam on Facebook

21-12-2013 | IslamWeb

Question:

Asslamu alaykum wa Rahmatu Allah wa Barakatuh Im an arabic sister married newly to a non Arabic brother and we still not living with each other..my husband try to follow sunnatu Rassuli Allah and try to understand Islam as the understanding of Sahaba and tabi3en...but I have problem with him..he gaved an islamic lesson to some younger boys and girls and he asked theme to contact him if there is any question.. and some girl add him in facebook and talked to him as she wanna understand islam and follow sunnah and quran...and talked about some problem she has..my husband knows that i don't like him to talk to girls and for me girls should ask women about islam I searched some fatwa and find like shuyokh like Albani said even if about 3ulum char3iya a man shouldnt teach a non mahram women..he knows the fatwa but he says talking to that girl was with a veil since he cant see her or hear her...but that doesnt convince me since He already saw her in directe...I really dont like this situation and i dont know if im just over reacting.. because of jealousy or thats rally just. from. shaytan.? I wanna also know if normaly should a husband ask his wife before anything he does? Jazakum Allah khier

Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.

The husband and wife, especially those who are newly married, should do their utmost to build trust between each other and avoid anything that may lead to discord. This is because married life is a long journey surrounded by many problems that can be overcome by mutual understanding.

In principle, there is nothing wrong with a man teaching women about Islam if everyone adheres to the Islamic guidelines such as not being alone in seclusion or using soft speech and the like. However, it is better for women teach and advise women to avoid the causes of temptation as we have pointed out in the Fatwa 30911.

It appears that what you feel is a form of jealousy. It is something natural for a woman to be jealous over her husband; however, it should be moderate. This is because going to extremes in that can make one fall into an undesirable form of jealousy that may lead to bad assumptions, spying or other evils. Kindly refer to Fatwa 90757 for benefit on how a woman can overcome undesirable and exaggerated jealousy.

We advise to kindly and gently advise your husband and urge him to be cautious and remind him that there is nothing like being on the safe side. As for your question: 'should a husband ask his wife before anything he does?', we do not say that he should do so, but if he asks her to please her and win her heart, this is good, given that it may not be good for a wife to know everything related to her husband.

Allaah Knows best.

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