Miserable and Depressed after Learning that Someone Stripped His Wife Off Her Panties
Fatwa No: 442384

Question

Asslalamualaikum . My friend says he is miserable and depressed after learning his wife is from a pious family had an affair with her boyfriend. Many years backs she went to his house when no one around and suddenly the boyfriend pull her to the bed brought down her panties and place his penis on the panties.The panties still covering her vagina. The boyfriend just rubbed his penis on the panties. She push him and she regretted. Has she committed zina ?The husband find it very difficult to forget it as he thought his wife is pure. Alhough he does many prayers etc. still miserable. They have 3 children. How to forget the whole incident and to move on. how to forget the whole incident and no peace of mind at all. Any special prayers.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

This act is not among the real Zina (fornication or adultery) that requires the Hadd (i.e. the corporal punishment determined by the Islamic Law), but it is one of its means, and it is also forbidden. Allah has warned us against it as He Says (what means): {And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.} [Quran 17:32]

Ibn Katheer  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him said in his Tafseer: “Allah the Exalted says while forbidding His Servants from Zina, from approaching it, and engaging in its causes and motives: {And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality…}” [End of quote]

This girl was wrong by her taking a boyfriend and enabling him to be alone with her, and by that, she was the cause that led her boyfriend to force her to do that. Nonetheless, the son of Adam is not free of errors (sins), but the best of the sinners are those who repent as it is proven in the authentic Sunnah.

Our advice to this husband is that he should not look at his wife’s past; rather, he should consider her present situation. So, if she is righteous now, then he should keep her as a wife and keep good marital relations with her and maintain his family in a strong bond, especially that they are blessed with children.

Forgetting the past about his wife is easy and possible if the husband has a sincere determination, strives about this matter, and supplicates Allah to facilitate that for him. He should also observe the Ath-kaar (mention of Allah) and seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan to avoid indulging himself in any bad thoughts.

It is obligatory to conceal the sin of this woman and not inform anyone else about what she did as it is not permissible according to the Sharee’ah to expose someone who does not openly commit sins and just erred and sinned once, as mentioned by the scholars. Abu Hurayrah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Whoever conceals the sin of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his sin in this worldly life and in the Hereafter.” [Muslim]

Allah knows best.

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