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Assalamu Alaiykum,I was extremely disappointed with your answer regarding your stance on abusive parents who mistreats me a lot. It is taking a tremendous toll on my mental health that I feel suicidal. I have lost my hope in Islam and Allah completely. I knew Allah will always favour parents no matter how much abusive they are, and it sounds akin to racial discrimination. I am feeling lonely, depressed and you made me feel like a liar. Your answer made me realise my life is worthless. From a young age imam has always supported my abusive parents, I am not surprised by your answer.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First, we advise you to be patient and strong in the face of what may afflict hardship. Worldly life is an abode of trials, so if you are safe from the mistreatment of your parents, you may not be safe from another kind of hardship, such as illness and others. Suicide is an escape from the problem, not a solution, but a transition to greater misery, as in the Hadeeth in the two Saheeh. The sane person does not think of committing suicide, let alone committing it. The afflicted Muslim must ask Allah The Almighty for protection from all calamity and know that in your patience with calamity, there is an expiation for bad deeds and an elevation of ranks. He must beware that this may lead him to lose his religious and worldly affairs.
Secondly: Your message contained hideous and ugly phrases, and their consequences are dire and dangerous, and they may lead to apostasy from Islam and leaving it altogether. Hence, you must hasten to repent sincerely and not repeat such things.
Third: Allah is too Mighty and Majestic to favor one over another, but He legislates according to His knowledge and wisdom. He has given the children rights over the parents just as He has given the parents rights over the children. He did not give parents the right to oppress their children, for injustice will be darkness on the Day of Resurrection, whether the oppressor is a parent or someone else.
Fourth: What we mention in some of our Fatwas of a phrase from which you may understand that we do not believe you in what you say, absolutely we do not mean to accuse the questioner of lying. Still, the reason for writing it is that you are talking about an absent matter that we did not witness, or about another party that we don't get to hear from them.
Fifth: We stress what we mentioned previously regarding supplication that Allah The Almighty to grant your parents guidance and righteousness and to facilitate for them someone from among your relatives and any other person whom they would accept from him his advice.
Allah knows best.
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