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Fatwa CenterHe wants to marry her, but her father says not now
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I have a dilemma. About 1 and half years ago, I proposed to a sister for marriage and we both agreed in the presence of her brother (who was the Waali). But I never made my intentions known to her father. She is currently at university and has 2 and a half years left to her course. She is of a different caste to me, but she says when she asks her parents about marrying me in 2 and a half years time they will be fine. But I requested her to ask her father for me to meet him and her father declined saying, when you finish university then I'll meet him. I am in waiting for her to finish her education but I have finished mine, so I really want to get married soon, because I will have the means to Inshaa' Allaah and it will help me lower my gaze. My question is: what shall I do?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
The marriage contract of a girl which is conducted without the consent of her guardian is not valid. Details are mentioned in our previous Fataawa: 85026 and 82103.
The father is the guardian of a girl, so, a brother cannot become a guardian unless the father approves it.
You are not allowed to have any relations with the girl before completing the marriage contract. For details read the Fataawa: 81668 and 81356.
We advise you to try your best to convince the father of the girl to marry her off to you. Let him know that marriage does not disturb study; rather it helps spouses concentrate and have the needed peace of mind.
If he does not agree and you are in need of marriage as you mentioned, then we advise you to seek another suitable and religious girl.
Allaah knows best.
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