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You Are a Legitimate Son of Your Father

Question

Al Salam Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu!I've read in a whole lot of places that children born out of wedlock should not be attributed to their father, although some opinions may differ. I, however, grew up with both of my parents, who are, by the way, non-muslim. I reverted to Islam a couple of years ago. When my mom got pregnant, they were not married yet. He had just recently lost his first wife, with whom he had three other kids, and was, at the time, a widow, dating my mom (she was obviously single). Before I was born, they managed to tie the knot, and then proceeded with their lives as every normal Christian couple would. He's been supporting me all these years, and there are no doubts that he is my real father (I have some of his and his other kids' physical traits). I'm registered as his son, but now, as a muslim, it is clear to me that I'm a child of zina. My question is: should I recognize him as my father and his other children as my half-siblings? Would I be committing a sin if I suddenly decided to cut ties with them (we're not that close anyways). Are they and I related according to shariah? Can I use that basic rule as an excuse to avoid contact with them?Jazakallah khair in advance!

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, we congratulate you for the blessing of embracing Islam. We ask Allah to make you steadfastness upon the Truth until you die.

We advise you to seek beneficial knowledge, perform good deeds, attend circles of Thikr (remembrance of Allah), and keep company with righteous people; these are the best factors that help a person to remain steadfast on the Truth.

As you mentioned, there is a difference of opinion among the jurists about attributing the son born out of Zina (fornication or adultery) to the fornicator or adulterer.

But if that relationship between that man and your mother is considered as marriage in their custom, then he is your father and you are Islamically attributed to him, and his children are your brothers.

Consequently, the ruling of this brotherhood between you and them applies, such as the obligation of keeping ties with them if they are Muslims, and that it is recommended to do so (keeping ties with them) if they are not Muslims, and other rulings.

The same thing applies if he traces you back to him –as it appears from the question –so you are his son, according to the view of some jurists.

Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him was asked about the problem of Zina, which is widespread: “Only few of our brothers and sisters were saved from Zina before they became Muslim. As a result of Zina, many children were produced. With regard to the children who are born as a result of Zina, is it obligatory for their fathers who have become Muslim and who were not married to the mothers to spend on their maintenance?

He  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him replied: “With regard to these people who had intercourse when they were still disbelievers; if they believed that this intercourse occurred in the context of a marriage contract that they thought was valid, even though it is invalid according to the Sharee‘ah, then the children belong to that man. For example, a case of a man who proposed to a woman when he was a disbeliever to be her husband and she agreed, and they thought that this was a marriage contract, and then later the man and woman became Muslim. We say: Your marriage is still valid and there is no need to repeat the marriage contract, and any children that you had are your children [..] With regard to the group of people you mentioned we say: If they believe that their intimate relationships with these women was a marriage, then it is not Zina and the children belong to them. Also, if you believed that it was Zina but you attributed these children to yourself when you were still a disbeliever -- i.e., if the fornicator said: These are my children -- then they are his children, so long as there is no one to dispute with him on this issue (claiming them to be his).” [End of quote]

Since it is proven in the light of what we have mentioned above that you are Islamically his son, then do not pay attention to any whispers, and strive in inviting your relatives to Islam and encourage them to embrace it as Allah may make you a reason for guiding them and you will, therefore, get a great reward.

Sahl ibn Sa’d  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said to ‘Ali  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him when he sent him to Khaybar: “Go to them patiently and calmly till you enter the land. Then, invite them to Islam, and inform them about what is enjoined upon them, for I swear by Allah, if Allah guides one single man (to Islam) by your efforts, that will be better for you than possessing an abundant number of red camels (a very expensive breed of camels).” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

You can make use of the following Fataawa that highlight that Islam is the true religion: 16595, 86091, 88906, 88051, and 82427.

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Allah knows best.

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